Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” Ephesians 4:26 “Be ye angry, and sin not: do not let the sun go down upon your wrath.” Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against rulers of the darkness of this world.” I mentioned these above three verses regarding the topic we discussed last week about communication. I feel these three scriptures will help us to communicate better and know that when we fight with our wives, we are fighting against the devil he is the one whom we should conquer and not our wives. When it comes to marriage and family it is not enough to communicate clearly and be understood but it should be so enough you communicate clearly you cannot be misunderstood. When we communicate in our family there are three worlds that we will settle in 1. Celestial world- brings people closer together after discussion...

 Communication is a lot more difficult than people think. This week I will discuss how and why it's different and then put emphasis on what we can do to improve our communications in marriage. In marriage, we are going to influence each other. Some of us are not ready to be influenced by our spouses, yet we want to influence the other. When we struggle to communicate, we are not trying hard to do so. It takes some real effort. People think that when they get married, they become masters of communication. That is not true because when something gets too easy for you, you tend to put less effort into it, and then when we do not put effort our communication skills drop. When you want to communicate with someone, you have some belief that whatever we say, convey a thought or feeling to a human being we assume that it is as clear as day, and they understand it. Problems of communication We are often encoding messages though we are not thinking that the second person must decode it or el...

Stress is important for the body, the bones dissolve and rebuild because of stress. Some levels of stress can be healthy, too much of it is not good either. Healthy stress helps you to remember things and achieve things because your brain is more focused when under stress. When we are children, we love learning and like to discover new things but when we start junior high, we start to avoid learning. We start to want to do things as easily as we possibly can. Because learning is hard and takes effort, we start to shun it. We tend to think to avoid learning or doing hard things because it brings about stress. When you learn you are growing and because of that you start feeling good. It is in our natural self to desire to grow and when we achieve that growth, we become happy. A study has shown that the learning curve of a human being flattens from ages 18-35. We stop learning because we are trying to avoid any kind of stress because we think being stressed is bad. In my life, I have real...

Sex is a sacred experience. It is one of those topics that is talked about poorly or nobody talks about it at all. Women generally take a long time to get aroused than men. Because males have a propensity to be focused on one thing at a time, they get aroused and reach a climax quickly. Women tend to worry about their surroundings and other things at the same time when having sexual intimacy. That’s why they might take a longer time to focus and be fixated on that. These differences can cause problems in relationships. When women are feeling safe, warm, and close it is very easy for them to be sexually connected. For men it is the other way round the reason they want to have sex is so they can feel safe, warm, and close to their spouses. Especially with reaching a climax, there are big bursts of dopamine, adrenalin, serotonin, and oxytocin (feeling of bonding or attachment). Women have that oxytocin and men do not. Because of that women might feel more attached and men might walk away....

 Most people plan for weddings and forget to plan for their marriage. Instead, we should be intentional in planning for our marriage instead of being casual. There is less authenticity when men propose nowadays. A study has shown that, when a woman has a beautiful story, she had when she got married when things get tough, she would most likely stay but when things go wrong, and she did not have a beautiful story she is most likely to slide off the relationship. Getting engaged should be sacred, intimate, a way of establishing clear boundaries. These boundaries should be made by the two of you, and you two only. When married keep out boundaries from family and friends. Instead, engagements are becoming less personal and more social. Most weddings parents’ chip in all the money and they get to set boundaries for you because they had a part to play in your marriage. If you start complaining about your marriage to others it is a betrayal of your marriage, talk to each other and trust i...

This week I want to touch on a few points of how we can prepare for marriage and what can we optimize when preparing for one. I will discuss the trends that people do or follow and hopefully, at the end of the reading, you can determine what you can do. A study has shown that in the olden days' people would marry someone they have access to and are closer to. That has changed drastically though and with electronic technology advancing, it is now quite different. People would marry someone that lives closer to them because of these reasons; commonalities, probably they belonged to the same culture, they had shared expectations, familiar schools, friends, and neighbors that both know that would eventually support the relationship, and probably they also had shared interests (music, same activities). Nowadays we probably marry someone because probably we share the same political opinions, probably we agree on what is important in spending money on. We marry someone judging by their vi...